I consider myself aromantic. I have absolutely no conscious interest in relationships (or sex or anything…even real friendship). But I have a weird problem of sorts — sometimes, I’ll develop a “crush” on someone, like a girl in a class I’m taking. I feel typical crushy feelings towards…
I’m in the same exact boat.
I identify as grayromanitc because of it since I still feel like those feelings are romantic in nature, even if it doesn’t lead to any desires such as a relationship. It’s still romantic attraction in my book (& the book of neuroscience if I recall right as the activity in the brain from infatuation is how romantic attraction is recognized or measured). That’s like saying someone’s asexual because they don’t want to have sex, despite getting turned on by people & every other such reactions that would qualify as sexual attraction. Sure they may not be allosexual, but if you go by the definition of asexuality it doesn’t quite fit. I just don’t think conscious interest is enough to define attraction.
That’s my perspective anyway….
Anyway, just because you have those feelings doesn’t mean you should feel pressured into being in a relationship you don’t want. Do what comes naturally to you, not what people expect you to do.